School and New Friendships

Starting college can be an overwhelming feeling. I started college back in 2011, right after graduating high school. I did a program called the master plan which allows Freshman and new students like transfers an opportunity to make friends, get familiar with campus and information about classes, greek life and raise awareness about sexual assault and granted you get to move in a week early before everyone else.

I did a full semester on campus and I had one of the hardest times adjusting. I was home sick, I didn’t have a car and had to rely on friends that I went to high school with to give me rides back home when they went of course but I felt stuck and I felt like a burden and high school did not prepare me how mentally and emotionally draining college was. So I took a break from school for about two years, deciding on what I really wanted to do.

When I enrolled back in to school,  I did online classes and still didn’t truly know what I wanted. So I did most of my gen-ed classes, trying to take it slow so I can decide what I really wanted to major in. About three semesters of online classes it finally hit me on what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I wanted to major in Broadcasting in Radio. I changed majors and then got the news that I would need to move back to campus because they hardly offered any broadcasting classes online. I had a complete panic attack at work when I found out because I only had a month to get everything together and to transfer jobs.

A week before I moved back to campus the panic started to sink in again. I started thinking about who my roommate was going to be, is she going to be really young? Immature? Are we going to be completely different and hate each other? Granted, I was 22 moving back into the dorms. I didn’t think anyone my age would be living in the dorm. Was I going to miserable like I was my first time living on campus? Was I going to hate my classes? Everything negative, I thought it but I didn’t have to worry about rides because I went and bought me a car a few months before the summer started.

The first day I moved in, my roommate didn’t show up. She didn’t show up for almost a week. I met her at 3 in the morning on a night where I had a 8 am class. She couldn’t get a flight out sooner. Her name was Yen, she was 25 and was from Vietnam. She was my height, thin with medium length chocolate brown hair and dark brown eyes. She was sincerely sweet and apologized for waking me up. She didn’t have a comforter, no sheets or pillows for her bed. I had brought some spare blankets with me and gave her some and a pillow. I wasn’t going to let her sleep on the bare, twin size dorm mattress.

The next day, I had met a girl named Dylan in my hall after class. She was an inch shorter than me, pale red hair, same size as me and green/hazel eyes. We had said hello to each other but it soon turned into a full blown conversation. She was 27, from Tennessee and she was roomed with a Brazilian girl named Leilai who was about my roommates age. “Oh I’m so glad I’m not the only older one here! I feel better that someone in the mid twenties are living in the dorms!” I sighed in relief. Dylan just laughed. She later invited me to hang out with her friends Madi, Kelli and Greta.

That night I met Greta and Kelli first who were roommates. Madi came in Dylan’s room about 30 minutes later and I found out that all the girls had met each other last year at the master plan program. Madi was 5’11, long brown hair with brown eyes , Greta was 5’2, long dark brown hair and hazel eyes and Kelli was 5’8, long curly blonde hair with blue eyes were 19. Kelli was from Chicago, Greta was from Boston and Madi was from all over the place. They made me feel like I had been friends with them for years, plus they were hilarious. I had never laughed so hard in my life. Each of their personalities were completely different but it worked in such a unique, powerful way and from that day, we all hung out with each other, getting closer and closer.

Dylan and I became roommates after Dylan’s roommate left college. I was a bit nervous because I heard that living with your friends can turn into a bloody battle in a blink of an eye but we were so alike in many ways. Madi had gotten a new roommate after hating her last one. Her new roommate’s name was Hannah and she instantly became one of our closest friend. She was the missing piece in our friend group. Everyone brought a little different piece to the group, growing up so differently, in different places and all of us being so headstrong. Don’t get me wrong, we butted heads like any friends but it only made us appreciate each other more.

I had never met such a group of strong, intelligent, supportive, genuine people in my entire life. I had rarely experience such healthy friendships like I had in these girls and without them, I probably wouldn’t like school as much as I did. Granted, I loved every single class that I took. Having healthy friendships and majoring in something you love makes school 100 times better.

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A Great Way to Start off the Summer.

Today started off a little slow. I woke up c to 4pm since I didn’t go to bed till after 5 am. You know those conversations you don’t want to end? Yeah, I was having those and I was dreading knowing that I was falling asleep mid-sentence with my phone in my hand but I finally passed out.

When I had woken up, Blake one of my best friends had call to make sure our plans for Louisville were still in action. We were going to go to the Mercury Ballroom, stand outside of the venue and try to meet the band, HAIM. We were both too poor to afford tickets and too be honest, I have heard maybe just a handful of their songs.

My best friend Dylan whom I met back in August where I started school again had come up for a few days, one for a two day health convention for her classes and two to visit me. One of the main things I love about Dylan is that she’s down for whatever so of course she was down for going to Louisville and waiting with Blake and I as we meet the band, HAIM.

Driving to Louisville is literally the worst experience for me. I have really bad anxiety and driving in a crowded city always spikes my anxiety though the roof so after having nearly a panic attack we make it to the parking garage just a block away from the Mercury Ballroom. We went to the Brown Hotel which felt like I was being transported back to the 40’s. I instantly felt underdressed because everything was so classy and fancy including the staff that worked there and the visitors that were eating in their restaurant. I have a love for the Brown Hotel because not only is it beautiful exterior and interior but it also was the place where the famous dish, ‘The Hot Brown’ was invented. It’s a Kentucky thing because my friends who are from different states, mostly Northern are like, ‘a what?’

But when we got to the Mercury Ballroom we managed to hear the last three songs and one of them was my favorite, The Wire, which might be cliche because that’s one of their famous ones but it’s so damn catchy. It was my summer song of 2015 but we chilled on the side of the Mercury Ballroom that was roped off to stop people from crowding the side of the building and crowding the parking garage.

We waited for about 2 maybe 3 hours, Dylan and I sitting down on some step that belonged to a restaurant and Blake stood by the ropes. Blake had managed to strike up a conversation with a group of girls that seemed to blossom into a social network friendship. He also managed to get three free tickets to The Joy Formidable concert. Dylan and I talked to these two girls, one who went to the same college as us and the other who actually lived in Louisville. They were super nice.

About midnight is when HAIM’s manager came out and told us that HAIM was going to come out and say hey and take pictures with us, granted he needed to get them on the road in about 25 minutes. There was probably maybe a group of 30 people, including us waiting in line to meet HAIM. When they came out, only Alana and Este came out. Danielle didn’t and a lot of people were disappointed but when it was my time to come to meet 2/3 of HAIM I started to freak a little because I didn’t really know what to say to them.

But OF COURSE, they were so chill. They were beautiful, tall and Este and I wreath same height. They brought me in for a group hug. Talked for a bit, Este complimented me on my height after Dylan said I looked really short. They were so nice, I got a picture or a million thanks to Blake and I wished them safe travels as they get on the road to go onto their next show.

Sometimes it surprises me with how chill and mellow most musicians, celebrities, etc. are. You always see them in a different light due to the media and you just forget that they are people just like you, that do something very public for a living. They have the same feelings, emotions, etc. like you and it’s cool to see people so grounded.

Ending this day with eating McDonalds at 2 in the morning and crying over Bernie Sanders speech was just a perfect way to end an amazing day.